The Art of the Swipe: Strategic Dating
SEPTEMBER 25TH 2024
EPISODE 61: The Art of the Swipe: Strategic Dating
Dating is HARD. With so many choices at our fingertips, dating apps have become a double-edged sword, offering endless possibilities while simultaneously overwhelming us with options. Do we swipe based on a carefully curated list of desired traits, or do we let our intuition guide us, swiping right on that inexplicable spark of connection? In this ever-evolving landscape where the rules of engagement are constantly shifting, many of us are left feeling lost and uncertain.
Thankfully, in this episode, Dr Scott is joined by the brilliant Damona Hoffman, dating expert and author, who knows how to make sense of the complexities of human connection. Damona is here to dispel the myths of dating, like the trap of looking for a soulmate or waiting for the right chemistry, offering us tools to help navigate the search for aligned values and lasting intimacy.
In this conversation, they’ll explore the power of vulnerability and self-discovery in creating meaningful bonds, the importance of curiosity in building trust and what it really means for us to each build our own unique love story. They’ll dive into the four biggest dating myths that keep us stuck and learn how to flip the script, prioritizing goals, values, communication, and trust over fairytale fantasies.
So, if you’re ready, let's swipe left on outdated dating myths and swipe right on genuine connection and self-discovery.
Topics We Break Down:
Debunking four harmful myths about dating and relationships, and exploring their antidotes.
The paradox of choice - how choice impacts the way we interact and communicate.
How to identify your values, and how to see if they align with your partner's.
Why repair language (conflict resolution) is just as important as love language.
Helpful strategies for building trust.
Diving deeper into the myth of soulmates.
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Show Notes
Episode Links:
‘Master Class: The 4 Dating Myths & 4 Pillars’
Date Lab | The Washington Post
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Special Guest
DAMONA HOFFMAN
Damona Hoffman is a certified dating coach, radio host, and TV personality. Damona starred in the TV series #BlackLove and A Question of Love on FYI TV (A & E Networks), she hosts the Dates & Mates with Damona Hoffman Radio Show & Podcast, she is the Love Expert for BET.com, and she writes for The Washington Post’s long-running column, Date Lab. Damona was a finalist for iDate’s Best Dating Coach of 2014 and 2016, has been named one of the top dating experts in LA by DatingAdvice.com, and Damona has made hundreds of media appearances on NBC, Fox, Animal Planet, SiriusXM, Woman’s Day Magazine, Essence Magazine, People Magazine and more. Her first book F the Fairy Tale was published in January 2024 and became an instant Amazon #1 bestseller.
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Your Host
DR. SCOTT LYONS
Dr. Scott Lyons is a licensed holistic psychologist, educator and author of the book Addicted to Drama: Healing Dependency on Crisis and Chaos in Yourself and Others, with Hachette publishing. Scott is also the host of The Gently Used Human Podcast, a delightfully depthful and often hilarious exploration of what it is to be human, to have lived life, and come out gently used.
As a renowned body-based trauma expert, Doctor of Osteopathy (Spain) and Mind-Body Medicine specialist, Scott helps people to break free from cycles of pain, limited beliefs, and trauma. Scott is an innovator in transformative wellness and trauma therapy, teaching over half a million people internationally over the past twenty years how to relieve stress and restore vitality. Scott has worked with many of the country’s top leaders and CEOs as an executive coach and wellness consultant.
Scott is the creator of The Embody Lab—the largest online learning platform for body-based trauma therapies—and developer of Somatic Stress Release™, a holistic process of restoring biological resilience, taught in over 20 countries. Scott is also the founder and progressive designer of Omala, a wellness brand dedicated to creating sustainably sourced tools for transformation.
About the Podcast
THE GENTLY USED HUMAN
Dr. Scott Lyons and his world renowned guests take us into the delightfully depthful and often hilarious exploration of what it is to be human, to have lived life, and come out gently used. From passion to pain, glory to defeat, comedy to drama to tragedy, we’ve all been through it. This show unpacks the psychology and humor needed to keep you thriving on the roller coaster of being human.
