Rewiring Your Love Life (Without the Drama)
MARCH 19TH, 2025
EPISODE 84: Rewiring Your Love Life (Without the Drama) with Nicole Vignola
Heartbreak isn’t just emotional—it’s chemical. That’s right, breakups trigger withdrawal symptoms in your brain just like a drug, and if you’ve ever felt literally addicted to your ex, there’s a reason why.
In this episode, Dr. Scott Lyons sits down with neuroscientist Nicole Vignola to unpack the science of breakups, love addiction, and how to rewire your brain for healing. Together, they explore why we can’t stop thinking about certain people, the dopamine loops that keep us stuck, and the fastest ways to break free from the past.
Plus, they get real about their own breakups, the neuroscience-backed hacks that actually help, and why blocking your ex might just be the most scientifically sound decision you’ll ever make.
Topics We Break Down:
Why Breakups Feel Like an Actual Addiction – The neuroscience behind heartbreak withdrawal.
Checking Your Ex’s Social Media? Here’s Why You Can’t Stop – How dopamine fuels obsessive behaviors post-breakup.
The Power of ‘Cold Turkey’ – Why cutting off contact is the fastest way to rewire your brain.
Re-Scaffolding Your Life – How to rebuild your identity after a relationship ends.
Why You Keep Dating the Same Type – Breaking free from unconscious relationship patterns.
✨ Whether you’re freshly single, healing from an old breakup, or just fascinated by the brain’s wild ways—this episode is packed with insights to help you move forward.
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Special Guests
NICOLE VIGNOLA
Nicole Vignola is more than a neuroscientist; she's an established keynote speaker and author. Reaching millions through her well-established platform, Nicole offers practical tools and scientifically proven methods to enhance mental well-being.
Recognised as "Instagram's favourite brain expert" by Women’s Health Magazine, it’s her mission to demystify neuroscience, making it accessible and impactful for everyone.
Her commitment to empowering people with an understanding of how their brain works has made her a pioneering force in redefining wellness. Nicole's debut book, "Rewire," offers a transformative neuro-toolkit. With practical strategies to optimise your life, rewire your brain and break free from limiting habits and behaviours. “Rewire” is your guide toward personal growth and fulfilment. The book was pre-empted in the UK by Penguin Michael Joseph; it was also pre-empted in the US by Harper One and has sold over 20 translation deals.
Your Host
DR. SCOTT LYONS
Dr. Scott Lyons is a licensed holistic psychologist, educator and author of the book Addicted to Drama: Healing Dependency on Crisis and Chaos in Yourself and Others, with Hachette publishing. Scott is also the host of The Gently Used Human Podcast, a delightfully depthful and often hilarious exploration of what it is to be human, to have lived life, and come out gently used.
As a renowned body-based trauma expert, Doctor of Osteopathy (Spain) and Mind-Body Medicine specialist, Scott helps people to break free from cycles of pain, limited beliefs, and trauma. Scott is an innovator in transformative wellness and trauma therapy, teaching over half a million people internationally over the past twenty years how to relieve stress and restore vitality. Scott has worked with many of the country’s top leaders and CEOs as an executive coach and wellness consultant.
Scott is the creator of The Embody Lab—the largest online learning platform for body-based trauma therapies—and developer of Somatic Stress Release™, a holistic process of restoring biological resilience, taught in over 20 countries. Scott is also the founder and progressive designer of Omala, a wellness brand dedicated to creating sustainably sourced tools for transformation.
About the Podcast
THE GENTLY USED HUMAN
Dr. Scott Lyons and his world renowned guests take us into the delightfully depthful and often hilarious exploration of what it is to be human, to have lived life, and come out gently used. From passion to pain, glory to defeat, comedy to drama to tragedy, we’ve all been through it. This show unpacks the psychology and humor needed to keep you thriving on the roller coaster of being human.
